The Trap of Forced Apologies
(There is a video at the end of this post with similar material)
Men understand being under attack. They have had it for 50 years. What is it they have had? Vicious and unfounded feminist attacks on masculinity. It started with the men are pigs mantra, and then it went to all men are rapists. So many points in between with men being pummeled and blamed for just about every possible problem. What started out as feminist hatred of men and masculinity has now become a societal hatred of men from the media, the legislators, Hollywood, academia and just about every place you can look. You know, masculinity is toxic. This has been going on and on for nearly fifty years. It is a testament to men’s strength that most of them have been able to ignore the hatred and carry on with their lives. A few have succumbed to the constant barrage and turned against their own sex and echoed the harsh and ridiculous judgements that had been sent in their direction. Worse yet, they started apologizing for being male. You can hear the male feminists lamenting being male and apologizing for being a man. Pretty bizarre don’t you think?
This is the beginning of the end game for identity attacks.
We can learn more about this process from the work of Robert Lifton on brainwashing. Lifton studied the Chinese techniques of brainwashing and wrote a book in the mid 20th century on the specifics of their craft. In a nutshell, they would first attack the identity of the target. They would do this repeatedly and do it in large groups where the target was alone and without support. They would incur serious punishments for any response that varied from their party line. This wore people down. After being bashed for long periods their identities were softened. They were unsure of reality as they had known it. At this point they were told that in ie=rder to survive their only alternative was to apologize. Most targets resisted this and held out until they simply could go on no longer. At that point they started apologizing and Lifton described their inner process that resulted. He basically said that the apology solidified their shift in identity. Prior to apologizing they continued to have some sense of identity but once the apologies started this was deeply eroded. It seems that if the person apologized it put them into a high dissonance situation where their only path out was to go along with the new highly negative identity. In fact Lifton noticed something very important. The new way of seeing themselves was not based on what they did wrong or even did right. They weren’t people who had done something bad, their being was bad, they were personally responsible for the problems of the world, their essence was bad. The new identity was connected to the idea that they were not people who had done something bad, no, they were simply bad people. The brainwashing had taken them to the point of seeing their being as being bad and hurtful. Once to this point the person loses all integrity, self worth, and a sense of true identity. They are automatons serving those who had attacked them.
It’s worth noting that the Chinese disallowed ANY questioning of their side of things. They were to be seen as infallible, omnipotent, and never wrong. Question them and you would find hell to pay. It’s easy to see how this is similar to the feminists who would not allow any feedback that in any way strayed from their rigid ideological doctrine. They were always right, just like the Chinese.
With this in mind, think about the feminists and their treatment of men and the sad fall of some men into this sense of being bad. Think of the male feminists who apologize for being male. Over and over. We can get a better idea of what is happening to them when we understand the message of Robert Lifton.
But now think about what is happening. Men have been attacked for decades and many men, to their credit, have resisted this attack. But observe what is now happening to white people. Whites are starting to have their identity attacked in a very similar manner. They are being blamed as being the cause of all problems, whites are universally bad, and they are being condemned. Even worse, they are now being required to apologize. The identity of some whites has gotten to the point that their identity is damaged and they feel obligated to apologize. Like the Chinese brainwashing victims above, once you start apologizing you are toast.
It’s important to see that the forced apology game is a rigged game. It is designed to silence opposing voices and create lemmings to serve them. If you did something wrong an apology is always in order, but be sure you have actually done something wrong. Check it out with those who know you best, ask them if you need to apologize. Most importantly ask others, but in the end go with your own intuitive sense. It is probably right on the money.
Men are good. As are you.