Why Men Like Independence
Happy Independence Day! Yeah, I’m Independent.
Why is independence important to men? Ever notice that men work hard to appear to be independent? Men tend to not want help, preferring self-sufficiency, wanting to possess the resources to do something. They are hesitant to admit when they are coming up short, not wanting to appear weak or soft including not wanting to show tender emotions. What is driving this?
The driver of this is one of the best kept secrets in the world. It’s the fact that men live every day in a male hierarchy. Most are unaware of this. It is common to hear women judge men harshly for wanting to appear independent, to be on top, to have it all together. Women will often mistakenly see this as a sign of immaturity but the fact is that since boys went through puberty they have been living in a world that judges them and rates them on their manhood. Continuously. Women have never experienced anything like it and they will often err by assuming he is just acting childishly or worse.
Think that is incorrect? Just look at the research that has been going on for the last 10 years on what researchers are calling “Precarious Manhood.” The researchers are studying this phenomenon that shows itself as young men and men being rated by cultures around the world. Yes, this is not just in western cultures, they are finding the same rating systems universally. They see that manhood is difficult to achieve and very easy to lose. Compare this to womanhood where girls after puberty are automatically considered to be women.
Ladies, you don’t have a clue about this and you would do well to start asking your man some questions about what it is like to be in his shoes., You would learn lots and he would feel, well, independent if you could understand the nature of this male hierarchy.